Rising Signs and Relationships

*It is your Rising sign, rather than your Sun sign, that is the
primary indicator of harmony or attraction in your relationships.*

Basing your relationships on Sun Signs alone is a common mistake. While there are long term benefits to having compatible Suns, it is no guarantee of a harmonious relationship. Overall harmony and attraction is mainly the province of the Rising sign or Ascendant.

The Ascendant is planet Earth and is the most important part of the chart representing the "actual" or perceived you. The Sun, on the other hand, is the most important heavenly body representing the "ideal" or aspiring you which is not always obvious to others.

When the Sun person sees his or her inner self reflected outwardly by the Ascendant person, an intimate or mutual bond is established. Similarily, when the Ascendant person is invigorated or animated by the presence of the Sun person, an intimate or harmonious bond is also established.

How one's Ascendant or Rising sign therefore relates to someone else's Sun sign, is the primary indicator of attraction or harmony(both physical and personal) in a relationship.

Ideally, the attraction should be both ways(A's ascendant to B's Sun, and B's ascendant to A's Sun), but it often happens that only one's Sun is compatible to the other's ascendant. In most cases this is sufficient to make the relationship successful, especially if other compatability factors like Sun-Sun, Moon-Moon, Mercury-Mercury, and Venus-Mars are present, but there is also a chance that the relationship will be one-sided. Example:

Person A
Person B
Asc.in Scorpio
Asc.in Virgo
Sun in Aries
Sun in Taurus

In this example person A feels a strong attraction to person B(Ascendant opposite Sun is a very common and powerful attraction between two individuals), and while Person B's Sun likes what it sees (Scorpio rising), it does not really feel comfortable or at ease(A's Sun is in quincunx aspect(by sign) to B's ascendant). The impulsive rays of an Aries Sun tend to grate the sensibilities of Virgo rising.

Sun/Ascendant Aspects

There are seven basic aspects or relationships between the Sun and Acendant, five of which are dual. The most important are the "cardinal" aspects -the conjunction, opposition, and square. The conjunction and opposition show much rapport and are often found in all kinds of close relationships such as marriage and best friends. The square is tense or difficult but important in that it is usually found between parent and child or boss and employee. The trine and sextile are pleasant but not necessarily crucial and are often found between casual acquaintances such as friends, lovers, strangers, or neighbours. The quincunx and semi-sextile are unpleasant and basically negative in nature often causing relationships plagued by treachey, debt, burden, or ill-health.

Sun/Ascendant aspects are mostly by sign, although a close aspect by degree will certainly intensify the effect. Here is a table of the various Ascendants and their relationships to the Sun.

If your Rising
sign is...
You will have
excellent rapport
with Sun in...
You will feel tension
but importance
with Sun in...
You will have a
pleasant(but often dull)
rapport with Sun in...
You will feel nega-
tivity or irritation
with Sun in...
Aries
Ari or Lib
Can or Cap
Gem,Leo,Sag,Aqu
Tau,Vir,*Sco,Pis
Taurus
Tau or Sco
Leo or Aqu
Can,Vir,Cap,Pis
Ari,Gem,*Lib,Sag
Gemini
Gem or Sag
Vir or Pis
Ari,Leo,Lib,Aqu
Tau,Can,Sco,Cap
Cancer
Can or Cap
Ari or Lib
Tau,Vir,Sco,Pis
Gem,Leo,Sag,Aqu
Leo
Leo or Aqu
Tau or Sco
Ari,Gem,Lib,Sag
Can,Vir,Cap,*Pis
Virgo
Vir or Pis
Gem or Sag
Tau,Can,Sco,Cap
Ari,Leo,Lib,Aqu
Libra
Ari or Lib
Can or Cap
Gem,Leo,Sag,Aqu
*Tau,Vir,Sco,Pis
Scorpio
Tau or Sco
Leo or Aqu
Can,Vir,Cap,Pis
*Ari,Gem,Lib,Sag
Sagittarius
Gem or Sag
Vir or Pis
Ari,Leo,Aqu,Lib
Tau,Can,Sco,Cap
Capricorn
Can or Cap
Ari or Lib
Tau,Vir,Pis,Sco
Gem,Leo,Sag,*Aqu
Aquarius
Leo or Aqu
Tau or Sco
Ari,Gem,Lib,Sag
Can,Vir,*Cap,Pis
Pisces
Vir or Pis
Gem or Sag
Tau,Can,Sco,Cap
Ari,*Leo,Lib,Aqu
*possible exception to the rule based largely on the traditional dual
rulership scheme(which alleviates some of the negativity)

Important Note: The Sun/Ascendant relationship determines the OVERALL tone or quality of the relationship, and gets things started. As the relationship progresses, others factors must be taken into account if the relationship is to last. See here for those factors.

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