Astrology and Relationships
The Most Important Combinations

1. Sun/Ascendant(general harmony)

2. Moon/Moon(emotional harmony)

3. Mercury/Mercury(mental harmony)

4. Venus/Mars(sexual harmony)

The above four combinations form the working basis for any relationship. Other important combinations......

5. Sun/Sun(spiritual harmony)

6. Sun/Moon(friendship)

Note: for 1,4, and 6, only one cross link between the individuals suffices.

1. The Ascendant is the main attracting force in a relationship, and the Sun is what is being attracted. The most notable combination between the sexes is the woman's Ascendant in the opposite sign of the man's Sun.

Example; Woman: Leo Ascendant.........Man: Aquarius Sun

This man will be drawn to this woman, and the woman will feel the positive emanations of the man, but other combinations must be considered if the relationship is not to be a superficial one.

2. The Moon describes our emotions, moods, and daily habits. In order for two individuals to feel comfortable together, their two Moons must be in compatible signs. Here is a compatability list for the signs...

MASCULINEFEMININE_
FIRE
EARTH
Aries
Taurus
Leo
Virgo
Sagittarius
Capricorn
AIR
WATER
Gemini
Cancer
Libra
Scorpio
Aquarius
Pisces

The six masculine signs(fire and air) harmonize with one another, but not with the six feminine signs(earth and water). Signs in their own element are particularly harmonious.

There are four exceptions; Capricorn/Aquarius, Aries/Scorpio, Taurus/Libra, and Leo/Pisces.

3. Mercury is our way of communicating. In order for two people to communicate easily with one another, it is important that their two Mercury signs be compatible. Masculine Mercurys are louder and more talkative, whereas feminine Mercurys are more quiet and sensitive.

4. For true affection and sexual compatability it is important that there be at least one harmonious link(by sign) between Mars and Venus, preferably the man's Mars to the woman's Venus. Inharmonious links can be exciting but they don't usually last. Venus will not accept the advances of an inharmonious Mars.

5. The Sun is our spiritual and eternal center. For real love and endurance it is important that the two Suns be in harmonious signs. The sextile(two signs before or after) and the trine(four signs before or after) are the most favorable, followed by the opposition(six signs away) and the conjunction(same sign). The square(three sign before or after) is the most difficult, followed by the semi-sextile(one sign before or after) and the quincunx(five signs before or after).

6. For friendship and romance, a harmonious Sun/Moon link is important. A notable combination between husband and wife or lovers is the man's Moon in the same sign as the woman's Sun.

Naturally, there are other important planetary links in a relationship, but without the basic links just outlined, it is likely to be a temporary one.

Planets to the Ascendant

The most immediate and observable influences in any relationship are those of one person's planets to the other person's Ascendant -by sign or element(the closeness of degree intensifies the effect). Your Ascendant or Rising sign, being the fastest moving factor in astrology(Earth's rotation), is the most sensitive part of you, immediately registering for good or bad, the influences of the other planets, whether your own or someone else's. This is the bases for the "houses" in astrology. The Ascendant or Rising sign is also a cardinal influence(ruler of the cardinal sign Libra) which means it activates or provokes an immediate response or result, even though it may be a superficial one.

Sun to the Ascendant: Someone's Sun in the same sign or element or even gender as your Ascendant makes you feel warm and creative and naturally expressive. Someone's Sun in an incompatible sign or element or gender to your Ascendant makes you feel tense and uncomfortable and unable to express yourself naturally. This tension is worse if the two Suns are also incompatible.

Moon to the Ascendant: Someone's Moon in the same sign or element or even gender as your Ascendant makes you feel homey and moody bringing your emotions to the surface. Someone's Moon in an incompatible sign or element or gender to your Ascendant is perhaps best, keeping your emotions at bay, so they do not interfere with the relationship.

Mercury to the Ascendant: Someone's Mercury in the same sign or element or even gender as your Ascendant will encourage you talk or communicate or stimulate ideas in you. Someone's Mercury in an incompatible sign or element or gender to your Ascendant can cause you to be unresponsive or uncommunicative or elicit criticism, especially if your two Mercurys are also incompatible.

Venus to the Ascendant: Someone's Venus in the same sign or element or even gender as your Ascendant is often a pleasurable contact for you sexually, but it can also lead to overindulgence and even financial debt. Someone's Venus in an incompatible sign or element or gender as your Ascendant is perhaps best, keeping the passions in check and leading to more profitable activities.

Mars to the Ascendant: Someone's Mars in the same sign or element or even gender as your Ascendant will cause you to feel confident and energetic, especially if your two Mars are also compatible. Someone's Mars in an incompatible sign or element or gender to your Ascendant can restrict your ability to act or may make you feel threatened, especially if your two Mars are also incompatible.

Jupiter to the Ascendant: Someone's Jupiter in the same sign or element or even gender as your Ascendant will bring out your positive and benevolent nature and urge to travel or explore new horizons. This is especialy so if your two Jupiters are also compatible. Someone's Jupiter in an incompatible sign or element or gender as your Ascendant may make you feel unwelcome, out of favor, untrusted, or actually disliked, especially if the two Jupiters are also incompatible.

Saturn to the Ascendant: Someone's Saturn in the same sign or element or even gender as your Ascendant will make you feel restricted, unexpressive, and burdened with responsibility. Someone's Saturn in an incompatible sign or element or gender as your Ascendant is best as it keeps such attitudes and responsibilities from bearing on the relationship.

Uranus to the Ascendant: Someone's Uranus in the same sign or element or even gender as your Ascendant will keep you in a state of surprise, excitement, and novelty, especialy if your two Uranus' are also compatible. Someone's Uranus in an incompatible sign or element or gender as your Ascendant will grate, irritate, and unsettle you, especially if your two Uranus' are also incompatible.

Neptune to the Ascendant: Someone's Neptune in the same sign or element or even gender as your Ascendant may fascinate you, but will more than likey prove to be draining and deceptive. Someone's Neptune in an incompatible sign or element or gender as your Ascendant is best as it keeps that person's mess out of your life.

Pluto to the Ascendant: Someone's Pluto in the same sign or element or even gender as your Ascendant may try to coerce, control, or even use you for their own selfish reasons. Someone's Pluto in an incompatible sign or element or gender as your Ascendant is best as it keeps you from manipulating or being manipulated.

Summary: Sun, Mercury, Mars, Jupiter, and Uranus should be compatible to the Ascendant while Moon, Venus, Saturn, Neptune, and Pluto should not.

Mutual Comparisons

Sun to Sun: indicates the life goals and long-term or spiritual compatability, what is truly important to either person and what makes them happy. Sun/Sun is an important indicator of true love. Incompatible Suns eventually go their own way.

Moon to Moon: emotional or living-together compatability, daily routine, habits, moods, sensitivities. Incompatible Moons can't stand being around each other for very long.

Mercury to Mercury: mental or intellectual attitudes and compatability, communication, interests, aptitudes, skills. Incompatible Mercurys often argue, misunderstand, and criticize each other.

Venus to Venus: pleasures and social activities, tastes, talents, values, attitudes towards money and finances. Incompatible Venus signs don't appreciate the same things.

Mars to Mars: energy levels, passions, strengths, sexual attitudes, combativeness, physical activities, things excelled in. Incompatible Mars signs often get into physical fights.

Jupiter to Jupiter: ethics, beliefs, morals, philosophies, areas of growth, expansion, and opportunity, attitudes towards travel and learning. Incompatible Jupiters have different moral or ethical standards.

Saturn to Saturn: attitudes towards security and responsibility, material goals, status and reputation, cooperative ventures. Incompatible Saturns often have unstable domestic and financial lives.

Uranus to Uranus: attitudes towards freedom and friendship or anything new or different, advocating causes, joining groups and associations. Incompatible Uranus signs differ widely on what constitutes friendship or how to help or improve humanity.

Neptune to Neptune: psychological conditioning and sensitivity, dreams and fantasies, escapist attitudes, obsessions and addictions, artistic tastes, receptive abilities. Incompatible Neptunes have conflicting obsessions or preoccupations.

Pluto to Pluto: attitudes towards change and reformation, extremism and exclusivity, intensity and depth, boom or bust. Incompatible Plutos will go all out in completely different ways or in areas unrelated to one another.

Ascendant to Ascendant: indicates the general temperaments, appearances, and approaches to life. Different Ascendants will attract different types of people and life situations.

Midheaven to Midheaven: indicates the mentality or ego-conciousness of the individuals and their likely vocational aptitudes or interests. Conflicting Midheavens have different priorities or ways of seeing life.

Inter-Functional Comparisons

Sun to Moon: look for good aspects if you want to settle down, bad aspects if you want a buisness relationship. The Moon instinctively understands and comforts the Sun, while the Sun protects and encourages the Moon.

Sun to Mercury: good aspects stimulate friendship and communication, bad aspects misunderstanding. Mercury understands the Sun and vocalizes or expresses its will, while the Sun finds Mercury amusing and a good friend.

Sun to Venus: good aspects promote fun and pleasure, bad aspects promote buisness or career interests. The Sun finds Venus reliable and resourceful while Venus finds the Sun a source of pleasure and inspiration.

Sun to Mars: good aspects arouse the passions while the bad aspects can cause flare-ups. Mars gives confidence and inspiration to the Sun while the Sun can be a great source of pleasure, love, and affection to Mars. Best for both to be in the same element.

Sun to Jupiter: good aspects engender love, playfulness, and trust, while the bad aspects stimulate overindulgence and lack of faith. The Sun trusts Jupiter for guidance while Jupiter has an instant liking for the Sun. Best for both to be in the same element.

Sun to Saturn: this is a difficult relationship no matter which way you look at it. At best, Saturn instills the Sun with purpose and discipline. At worst, Saturn is severe or heavy-handed and has a destructive or demoralizing effect on the Sun. The Sun can bring some joy or pleasure to Saturn, but often at the expense of its own happiness. Best for both to be in different genders.

Sun to Uranus: this is an electric combination. Good aspects stimulate excitement and novelty, while bad aspects are explosive and unsettling. The Sun finds Uranus unique, fascinating, and challenging, while Uranus finds a good friend and partner in the Sun. Best for both to be in the same gender or element.

Sun to Neptune: this is a magnetic but deceptive combination and there are no really good aspects. Good aspects are actually weakening and intoxicating. The Sun finds Neptune a challenging mystery, while Neptune finds the Sun to be too hot or glaring for its sensitivity. Best for both to be in different genders.

Sun to Pluto: this is an intense combination for good or evil. There are no really good aspects here and the Sun must take the lead. The Sun finds Pluto too obsessive or underhanded while Pluto finds the Sun too concerned with appearances. Best for both to be in different genders.

Sun to Midheaven: the Sun finds in the Midheaven an opportunity to express itself while the Midheaven finds its source of power or purpose in the Sun.

Moon to Mercury: good aspects promote instinctive understanding or communication, while bad aspects can block the receptivity or exchange of ideas. The Moon registers what Mercury is saying while Mercury feels it has found a good sounding board.

Moon to Venus: good aspects encourage conviviality and domestic or financial harmony, while bad aspects produce disassociativeness. The Moon finds a concrete ally in Venus, while Venus finds profitable opportunities and contacts through the Moon. Best for both to be in the same gender or element.

Moon to Mars: this is a touchy combination with no real good aspects. Good aspects encourage lust and passion, while the bad aspects can be tense or violent. The Moon is wary and fearful of Mars, while Mars finds the Moon appealing but problematic. Best for both to be in different genders.

Moon to Jupiter: the good aspects encourage popularity, while the bad aspects tend towards extravagance and indulgence. Jupiter lifts the Moon to prominence, while the Moon provides Jupiter's basic needs.

Moon to Saturn: good aspects give domestic and financial stability, while bad aspects give instability. Both work towards the establishment of a solid home base and career or status. Best for both to be in the same gender.

Moon to Uranus: this is a disruptve combination with no really good aspects. The Moon's desire for domestic stability is continually threatened or challenged by the unpredictability of Uranus. Uranus finds the Moon intriguing but cloying. Best for both to be in different genders.

Moon to Neptune: good aspects produce serenity, idealism, and romance, while bad aspects produce worry, depression, and disillusionment. The Moon is charmed by Neptune, and Neptune is cared for and nurtured by the Moon. Best for both to be in the same element.

Moon and Pluto: good aspects produce powerful and beneficial emotional exchanges, while bad aspects can produce abuse, rape, violence, or even death. The Moon is highly stimulated or enlivened by Pluto, while Pluto is moralized by the Moon. Best for both to be in the same element.

Moon to Midheaven: good aspects produce high public visibility or status, while bad aspects can produce scandal or notoriety. Best for both to be in the same gender.

Mercury to Venus: good aspects produce pleasant social and environmental conditions, while bad aspects produce minor disharmonies or conditions. Mercury can feed Venus with profitable ideas, while Venus can provide Mercury with the necessary resorces.

Mercury to Mars: good aspects produce workable ideas, while bad aspects produce discord between the thought and the act, often leading to quarreling or fighting. Mercury guides or informs Mars, while Mars implements Mercury's ideas. Both are best in the same gender.

Mercury to Jupiter: good aspects increase awareness and mental growth, while bad aspects produce poor judgement. Jupiter sees the big picture while Mercury attends to the details. Best to have both in the same gender.

Mercury to Saturn: good aspects produce solid and timely ideas, while bad aspects faulty or untimely ideas or designs. Mercury comes up with the plans while Saturn builds on them. Saturn can hinder or slow down Mercury's pace or thought processes. Best to have them in different elements.

Mercury to Uranus: good aspects produce brilliant and original ideas, while bad aspects produce weird or disruptive ones. Mercury provides the logic and Uranus provides the inspiration. Best to have both in the same element.

Mercury to Neptune: good aspects produce acute sensitivity and imagination, while bad aspects encourage lying, deception, and subterfuge. Mercury provides the words or ideas which Neptune colors or distorts. Best to have both in different genders or elements.

Mercury to Pluto: good aspects produce exclusive, incisive, and penetrating communication, while bad aspects produce deadly and destructive or undermining thoughts and words. Pluto coerces or manipulates Mercury, while Mercury exposes Pluto. Best to have both in different genders,

Mercury to Midheaven: good aspects bring recognition of one's ideas or writings, while bad aspects bring public slander or ill-repute.

Venus to Mars: good aspects stimulate true and lasting affection, while the bad aspects encourage lust and extra-marital affairs. The hard aspects are best channelled into money making. (see also #4 above).

Venus to Jupiter: good aspects are very lucrative and productive, while bad aspects produce extravagance, waste, and indulgence. Venus has the money and resorces and Jupiter has the luck and connections.

Venus to Saturn: good aspects produce long-term financial and domestic security, while bad aspects produce long-term instability and insecurity. Venus has the goods and Saturn knows how to make them last. Best to have both in the same element.

Venus to Uranus: the good aspects will stimulate one another's creativity, while the bad aspects will cause much distaste and financial instability. Venus has the cash and Uranus has the ideas. It is best to have both in different genders, where they will not irritate each other too much.

Venus to Neptune: the good aspects will stimulate romance and imagination, while the bad aspects will produce emotional discord. Venus supplies the dinner and candles and Neptune the mood and poetry. Best to have both in the same gender.

Venus to Pluto: the good aspects produce beautiful sex, whereas the bad aspects produce cheap or prostituted affection. Venus is the body and Pluto is the desire. Best to have both in the same gender.

Venus to Midheaven: good aspects bring recognition of your beauty or talents, while bad aspects bring discredit or unnappreciation of same.

Mars to Jupiter: good aspects encourage activity and growth of all kinds, while bad aspects promise more than can be delivered. Mars is the energy and Jupiter is the vision. Both are best in the same element.

Mars to Saturn: there are no really good aspects here. Mars is the accelerator and Saturn is the brake. At best, Mars can supply the energy Saturn needs and Saturn can teach Mars to look before leaping. At worst, Mars' impatience and impetuosity can be a constant irritation to Saturn and Saturn's slow and plodding ways can forever frustrate Mars. Best for both to be in different elements where they will not see much of each other.

Mars to Uranus: the good aspects will bring excitement and dynamism to the relationship, while the bad aspects can bring explosive reactions. Mars is the engine and Uranus is the spark that turns it on(or off). Best to have both in the same gender.

Mars to Neptune: there are no really good aspects here. At best, Mars can fire Neptune's imagination and Neptune can soothe Mars' anger. At worst, Mars can sear Neptune's sensitivity, and Neptune can drain Mars' energies. Both can really get into some strange and dangerous situations. Best for both to be in different genders.

Mars to Pluto: there are no really good aspects here either. At best, Mars can teach Pluto to be more forthright and Pluto can teach Mars to be more tactical. At worst, Mars can hasten Pluto's destructiveness and Pluto can undermine Mars' will to live. Best for both to be in different genders.

Mars to Midheaven: the good aspects bring one partner's personal achievements before an appreciative public, while the bad aspects can highlight one's achievements in a negative way.

Jupiter to Saturn: it is best not to blend these two energies as they are totally different from one another. Jupiter is expansion and growth and Saturn is restriction and limitation. Best to have them in different genders, natally or in a relationship.

Jupiter to Uranus: the good aspects bring unexpected good fortune or opportunity into one another's lives, while the bad aspects bring upsets or missed opprtunities. Jupiter can give Uranus more of a sense of ethics while Uranus can give Jupiter a more scientific or intellectual approach. Best for both to be in the same or opposing element.

Jupiter to Neptune: these two are very different so that the good aspects actually bring confusion or disillusionment. Jupiter is religious whereas Neptune is mystical. It is best for both to be in different genders, natally or in a relationship.

Jupiter to Pluto: these two are also very different so that the good aspects bring exageration or danger. Jupiter is expansion and growth whereas Pluto is concentration and miniturization. Both are best in a diferrent gender, natally or in a relationship.

Jupiter to Midheaven: the good aspects will bring recognition of one partner's good deeds or philosophy while the bad aspects will highlight same in negative fashion.

Saturn to Uranus: best not to blend these two as they are contradictory principles. Saturn is restriction or limitation whereas Uranus is boundless freedom. Best to have both in different genders, natally or in a relationship.

Saturn to Neptune: good aspects will bring the materializations of one's dreams or imaginations, while the bad aspects will shatter, deny, or limit that possibility. Saturn can show Neptune how to be more practical, while Neptune can show Saturn how to be more imaginative. Best for both to be in the same gender.

Saturn to Pluto: these two are somber but good friends and the good aspects will help the partners involved to achieve their long-term goals. Saturn can open the right doors for Pluto and Pluto can remove obstacles from Saturn's path. It is best for both planets to be in the same gender.

Saturn to Midheaven: the good aspects will benefit the reputation while the bad ones will mar it.

Uranus to Neptune: on the positive side, Uranus will awaken Neptune's dreams and Neptune will refine Uranus' abrupt or disturbing manner. On the negative side, Uranus will disturb Neptune's sensitive psyche and Neptune will dissipate or render ineffective Uranus' unique and shocking style. Both are best in different genders.

Uranus to Pluto: on the positive side, Uranus will stir things up for Pluto to feast upon, while Pluto will clear the way for Uranus to do it's own thing. On the negative side, Uranus will throw a monkey wrench into Pluto's machinery and Pluto will destroy or sabotage any progress or truth Uranus has to offer. Best for both to be in different genders.

Uranus to Midheaven: one's uniqueness or invention will be given public recognition, for good or bad.

Neptune to Pluto: good aspects will enhance psychic sensitivity between the partners while bad aspects will jar this sensitivity. Neptune will seek to introduce the concepts of forgiveness and universality to Pluto, while Pluto will want to teach Neptune how to focus and perservere. Both are best in the same element.

Neptune to Midheaven: good aspects will bring one's charisma or spirituality in a favorable light before the public, while bad aspects can bring scandal or ill-repute.

Pluto to Midheaven: reformer or dictator? this is how you will be seen publicly, depending on the aspects.

Notes
Good aspects: trine, sextile, conjunction, opposition(by sign)
Bad aspects: square, quincunx/inconjunct, semi-sextile(by sign)
Aspects by degree intensify what is already there by sign or element
Two planets "blend" their forces when in the same gender, element, or sign
Masculine gender= fire(Ari,Leo,Sag), or air(Gem,Lib,Aqu)
Feminine gender= earth(Tau,Vir,Cap), or water(Can,Sco,Pis)

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